One of the most common pushbacks I hear as a health and wellness coach for millennial women might not be the one that you expect.

“I’m too intimidated to go to the gym. I have no idea what I’m doing!”

Yep, that’s right. Self-esteem can often be the biggest issue that stops a woman from reaching her fitness or weight loss goals. That little voice in a woman’s head that threatens to sabotage our success in everything else in our lives can also encroach on our exercising. The voice sounds like “I can’t do that,” or “I’ll never be able to look like that.”

Trust me, I get it. When I was in college, you wouldn’t catch me trying to pump iron in my university gym—I was too worried I would embarrass myself. Let me assure you, most people in the gym are not focused on you. Like you, they’re also just trying to lose some weight, build muscle, or boost their fitness.

Something I’ve found that has helped my clients build confidence before they even step into the gym are fitness websites that help them gain muscle and skill. All of them offer free workouts, and most of them don’t require any equipment—so you can do it in the comfort of your home without anyone around you. Plus, all of these fitness entrepreneurs are positive and encouraging, which will help with any negative thoughts that may pop up. Then there’s the fact that every single one of these workout coaches is female; talk about girl-power!